HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!! To all the dedicated papas and mamas playing both roles.
I hear the saying "any male can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father"................ Parents of children who have what I call "biologicals" --definition :the man who gave up some DNA (keeping it real)-- How do you feel about it?
I have my own issues with that situation and have my own point of view on the subject. I guess my number one issue over all is "How can you go threw life on this earth knowing you have a child out there and not want to know them?" Now I know every situation is different but if by chance you can be involved why aren't you? Is it alright to pretend they don't exist, to put the burden on the mother to provide emotionally and financially for your child? Last I heard it takes two to make a baby.
I've heard statements being made like "she got married and the kid is with the new guy more so I stopped going to see them" or this ol'stand by "me and my baby mama hate each other and/or she won't let me see my child" (translation - can't stand her and I ain't going over there)
Look the last statement I'm not a fan of because your relationship with the mother is not your relationship with your child. Now if the bios are not the best influence then keeping them away is probably for the best. Let's not forget the "she don't spend the money on my kid so I'm not paying child support" wow that one gets me too! So let's see she buys food, gas, pays her light bill or rent with it right? The child needs food, mom needs to be able to get back and forth to work to support your child, the child needs a place to stay and electricity right? But does it still give you, the bio., an excuse to not financially support that child?
I have a solution for that, since you claim to not trust the mother with the money, you can open a savings account a put a little bit away every month and when your child turns 18 they have something to start life on. That would show them you did care even if you couldn't/wouldn't be there for them.................
Whoooooo ........ I'm off of my soapbox for now !! ........... lol
Today is about those who are good fathers. My husband is one of those men and I thank God for bringing him to me and for being my children's FATHER!
I do want to say I am glad that there are men out there who are willing to step up and be that father figure for these children and for those who have been there from the beginning no matter what your relationship is with your child's mother is ......... god bless you and keep it up!
You have no idea what it means to your child to have you there to know when they call you will be there for them and that you put them first!
Speak on it .......
I hear the saying "any male can make a baby but it takes a real man to be a father"................ Parents of children who have what I call "biologicals" --definition :the man who gave up some DNA (keeping it real)-- How do you feel about it?
I have my own issues with that situation and have my own point of view on the subject. I guess my number one issue over all is "How can you go threw life on this earth knowing you have a child out there and not want to know them?" Now I know every situation is different but if by chance you can be involved why aren't you? Is it alright to pretend they don't exist, to put the burden on the mother to provide emotionally and financially for your child? Last I heard it takes two to make a baby.
I've heard statements being made like "she got married and the kid is with the new guy more so I stopped going to see them" or this ol'stand by "me and my baby mama hate each other and/or she won't let me see my child" (translation - can't stand her and I ain't going over there)
Look the last statement I'm not a fan of because your relationship with the mother is not your relationship with your child. Now if the bios are not the best influence then keeping them away is probably for the best. Let's not forget the "she don't spend the money on my kid so I'm not paying child support" wow that one gets me too! So let's see she buys food, gas, pays her light bill or rent with it right? The child needs food, mom needs to be able to get back and forth to work to support your child, the child needs a place to stay and electricity right? But does it still give you, the bio., an excuse to not financially support that child?
I have a solution for that, since you claim to not trust the mother with the money, you can open a savings account a put a little bit away every month and when your child turns 18 they have something to start life on. That would show them you did care even if you couldn't/wouldn't be there for them.................
Whoooooo ........ I'm off of my soapbox for now !! ........... lol
Today is about those who are good fathers. My husband is one of those men and I thank God for bringing him to me and for being my children's FATHER!
I do want to say I am glad that there are men out there who are willing to step up and be that father figure for these children and for those who have been there from the beginning no matter what your relationship is with your child's mother is ......... god bless you and keep it up!
You have no idea what it means to your child to have you there to know when they call you will be there for them and that you put them first!
Speak on it .......
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